Stylish Forms That Actually Look Good And Are User Friendly

I searched google for sample databases and most forms are rather primitive... Currently there are some features to make more user-friendly forms that I have yet to find in excess:

1. Stop updating record automatically :
For some strange reason access auto-update the records the user change in a form. What I want is to only update records when the user press the "SAVE" button. This could allows better validation without forcing the user to remain trapped in an entry.

2. Better error messages
Instead of annoying pop-up telling the user that he made an error, I want something like an ErrorProvider Component that tells what error the user made with a small symbol (!) which provides the explanation of the error when you over the mouse on it.

3. Using different formats for different columns in a datasheet form
For some reason it is not possible to assign a special backcolor for some field that are locked to indicate they are locked if you use a datasheet form. This needlessly confuses users who hammer their keyboard trying to enter info in locked fields and have no feedback ( except maybe an incredibly annoying pop-up window ) to tell them not to enter data there.

4. Better excel-style features for datasheet forms :
Good way to annoy users : prevent a way to cut and paste multiple rows/columns of information in datasheet. If you try to paste more than one column at the same time it just doesn't work.

Also why is it impossible to make the title of field to take more than 1 row ? I mean it sure looks dumb to have

Number of tax report
1
2
3
4

Instead of

Number of
tax report
1
2
3
4