VWD Express(on A Laptop) And SQL Server 2005(on A Server)

Ok, this is my setup;

Laptop

Installed Visual Web Developer Express
Installed SQL Server Express

Server

Windows 2003 server
IIS is working and runs asp 2.0 scripts
Installed SQL Server 2005 which is running, has remote connections enabled and the SQL browser is also running
The windows firewall is turned OFF

Router

I have opened port 1433 to point to the server(TCP) and 1434 to point to the server (UPD)

 The Problem

Locally on my laptop everything works fine, I can't actually see SQL Express but if I enter MICKEYsqlexpress then connecting to databases works fine.
I've setup ftp on the server and I've created a new website using VWD on my laptop, it's connected via FTP and created the website fine, and it runs no problem.

I am in a remote location so I am not connected to the local network, but even if I connect to the local network using VPN I still cannot get this to work. The problem is I am unable to get VWD to connect to SQL on my server. I've tried installing VWD on the server, and it seems the SQL server fine, and shows as just the server name which is "GOOFY".

In VWD on my laptop I've tried entering the server as just "GOOFY" and also "GOOFYmssqlserver" and on both occassions I can an error message saying that a connection to the server couldnt be reached, and it's usually because the server is not setup to accept remove connections (but mine is). It also says something about "Named Pipe", but I've checked the server and that option is not enabled, I have TCP/IP enabled on the SQL server of the server.

 Can anyone help me to make a remote sql connection to my server?