Performance :: How To Limit Update Download Speed

I did a search and only found hits referring to a metered and/or WiFi connection, neither of which applies to me.

I have only a (nominal) 2Mbps connection -- which is the fastest available in my neighborhood. This has been a problem with Windows updates all along, but since I've upgraded to Win10, the trouble is exacerbated to the point that the internet is sometimes unusable when I'm getting an update from MS. This is especially problematic in that my spouse works online for a living, so MS eating up the bandwidth affects her job directly.

So, my question is in two parts:

1. Is there any setting whereby I can limit the download speed of the Windows updates? I don't wish to defer or stop any, just make them very low priority for bandwidth.

2. Is there any setting/switch I can toggle that will show (like the old flag icon in Win7) that there are Windows Updates downloading, so that I can tell whether any internet sluggishness is because of Windows or just the connection itself (which, living here the Third World, is far from constant). I'm hoping to document these fluctuations for an ongoing attempt to get better service from our ISP.

I realize this isn't really the place to lodge a complaint with Microsoft, but it sure would be nice if they (and other international software companies) would consider those of us who do not live in Redmond, Chattanooga, or other places with light-speed internet connections when they set things up.